August 12, 2020
Outside of the normal emotions most couples have experienced, I never thought the excitement of our engagement Jan 1, 2020 would transform into so many different things based on a microscopic force we call COVID-19.
He search for the ring was perfect and started on a crisp October day when we took an unplanned hike to Hanging Rock North Carolina. The scavenger hunt leading up to the proposal on the beach was also perfect and too sweet!
We set our date for Nov 2020 and enjoyed just being engaged for a full month before any additional planning began.
You know that ridiculous grin you have when you get to say the words “we’re engaged” to family, or you post that first picture together as 1k of your “closet friends” double tap your post?
That sync of intuition when you find the right venue….yes, this is the one babe!
Let’s be real brides …the amount of time and soul spent pouring over photos, YouTube planning videos, scheduling visits and calls to potential vendors feels like a side hustle in itself!
Things started to feel like the real deal when Steven and I had our first budget huddle. We decided to cash flow the wedding ourselves. With some hard work outside of the usual and crunching the numbers, we thought maybe we can have the wedding of our dreams with all of the people we care for.
Then COVID-19 Pandemic hit like a Mean Girl and this is what shifted:
We spent 8 weeks in different places, enjoying “Dates via Facebook Messenger “ to protect the safety of loved ones and strangers.
I modified my big “Say -Yes-To-The Dress” moment scheduled with my ladies to simply ordering 2 dresses off line hoping they would give me that beautiful bridal look I hoped for.
After paying our non refundable deposits and non refundable energy, I found my self getting very stressed over the things outside of my control and my short patience being a cause for high volume low yield disagreements with my fiancé.
Does this sound familiar?
Almost weekly updates and changes to gathering ordinances from the government made me question if all of the hype surrounding a modern wedding was really worth it.
We have toyed with the idea of returning to the simplicity of what we think beginning the rest of our lives together should be. Love, Each other before Others, United decisions, Exploration, Growth, Faith and FUN!
We have chosen to keep photo and video rolling of moments throughout the process and even our special day no matter where we end up! We hope you will too!
Has it been difficult to keep a Positive Mental Attitude? Yes, girl! Do I have to surround myself with and allow people to speak into my life ONLY who are going to lift me up. Yes, girl! Do I have to work to block out my own negative dialogues and self pity? Yes, Everyday!
Whatever you decide my soon-to-be couples: to downsize, postpone, cancel, or push through (safely of course), remember you are not alone! You are loved whether the wedding is the one of your dreams or not! You and your spouse have an advantage of overcoming and can choose to do so gracefully. It will test and strengthen your relationships and be a memory you can share for years to come.